It’s much worse than that. Jim Obergefell’s case was based on him not being allowed to see his dying husband. If anything happens to me and I’m seriously injured Obergefell v Hodges means my wife will be called and allowed to make medical and mortuary decisions for me instead of those responsibilities falling on the father who hasn’t spoken to me since I came out of the closet a decade ago.
International adoption yeah that’s definitely absolutely fucked. I will say I think it shouldn’t be a right per se to be allowed to adopt, but I do think that adoption agencies should have grounds on which they aren’t allowed to discriminate.
I encourage looking into how some of the more rigorous traditions interpret it all once you’re done. Catholicism in particular has some valuable ideas such as the non-overlapping magesteria of science and religion. The basic concept of which being that if the Bible says something that science counters it was likely metaphorical or a more primitive understanding, as the point of it is to convey spiritual truth and not scientific or historical fact.
I left Christianity myself due to theological disagreements, but there are many paths up the same mountain and I wish you the best of luck in your seeking
That’s why most of us have stood together yes
“You will live as we tell you to”
“Gay marriage violates the nap somehow” like they’ve already been doing that for abortion
Ahhhh yeah that tracks
They were after all of us. We wouldn’t’ve been spared by not being in the way
I hate this country. My loving marriage has far more right to exist than these ghouls’
It’s like he’s begging for his kids to all have name changes
A reasonable judge would hold these billionaires liable to their last penny nickel
I sincerely hope this man goes to prison
Southerners are the same way. Nobody calls us yanks as a compliment
That might be the most based headline I’ve read in a long time
Yeah unfortunately your experience was common. Transition used to be seen like how some Christians see abortion “necessary in some circumstances but to be dissuaded as much as possible and only done when absolutely necessary.” Many straight and gender conforming trans people were stopped in some way from transitioning and stories of bi and gay trans people lying our asses off to doctors in order to transition were common enough to eventually contribute to the removal of orientation from the diagnostic criteria.
The fact is I transitioned at a unique time. I started hormones in 2015, I was 20 and people far braver and more self aware than me had set up the ground work for me. I had old ideas that I’d picked up as a teenager in my “am I, no I can’t be, but am I” waffling. I was brave to tell my therapist I’m a lesbian, but if I got a no I’d’ve probably just done DIY. Same for if RLE was demanded of me. I was on a downward spiral from puberty to that point and I’d waited until it was transition or die, like I’d been told to do by other trans people. And of course that was the advice back in the day, they put you through hell to transition.
I like to think I might have been more like Susan Stryker back in the day, but it took seeing someone like me be trans to accept myself. Sometimes self preservation looks like digging in your heels, baring your teeth, and telling the world to try and stop you, but so often it’s doing what you did, accepting a wound and going back to hiding for some time. Self preservation is a virtue.
Philosophytube is excellent and for anyone who doesn’t know that quote is a reference to a more famous quote by youtuber contrapoints: “I look inside myself and ask, do I feel like a man, or a woman, and the answer is that I feel like shit.” And I love this inversion because both approach philosophy wildly differently.
Contra is someone who needs to know more, and to pursue truth even when it is self destructive. Her transition wasn’t the turning point towards happiness (though her accepting she’s a lesbian and an addict may have been), but it was an act of deep personal honesty.
Philosophytube routinely approaches topics as tools to improve your understanding and life, and if Kant can’t improve your life that’s ok, you don’t need to deal with his ideas if they don’t, but aren’t they still interesting and a good foundation to other ideas… Her transition was clearly both a turning point and a culmination of a progression towards happiness, and you can see it in her face in her videos.
I like that duality because I’ve met people like both of them and in both cases the end result is an increase in both happiness and truth.
I wish you too all the healing you can find. Mental health is hard and healing can be long and slow, but practicing healing does pay off
I would assume that’s the case, especially when you account for the changes to what counts as trans ober the past century. You used to have to lie your ass off to get hormones if you were anything short of perfectly gender conforming and straight. When I started a decade ago there were still people who would deny you hormones for just the wildest shit, like a friend got told she had to wear a dress and makeup to therapist appointments to get approved, and it wasn’t like an old person who said that, it was the therapist.
Hell I know people who transitioned in the 90s and back then the question was if you told your friends and family or just moved to a different city and start a new life. So like yeah of course a lot of people would see that and decide that what amounted to treating depression wasn’t worth that.
And it should be noted, those people didn’t have great outcomes. They weren’t “made right handed” they were made barely able to write with either hand. To a certain degree these people were disabled by being forced to accommodate cultural norms.
It’s fitting to then look at the data for LGBT people and see the same thing play out.
So what I’m hearing is to put on a habit and hit my wife’s hand with a ruler every time she writes with her left hand to keep her from sinning
I don’t love that she’s out without rehabilitation but I’d rather that than prosecutorial misconduct being ignored