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  • They take offense because “wanting nothing from them” implies that they have nothing to offer. Even if this is true, it’s still rude to imply.

    And yeah, pretty much the only way to get needy conversationalists off your back is to throw them a bone once in a while, even if it’s only a “ooh that’s rough, but whatcha gonna do?” or a “not bad, yourself?”


  • Okay, first off, fellow introvert here:

    The problem you’re describing isn’t really an introvert-extrovert thing, it’s a sociable-antisocial thing. I think your gender dynamics theory has some merit, too, but what you need to understand is that, before, you were acting antisocial.

    Ignoring people is antisocial, and moreso when it’s people talking about their feelings. To you that was worthless drama but to them it was their emotional experience. Now you’re engaging; and yes, with hostility, but at least there’s communication and connection.

    And in my experience, a lot of more blunt people have trouble telling passive-aggression apart from a more indirect communication style. “Did you email Bob from shipping yet?” is very blunt, to the point of rudeness. “It’s important that Shipping is up-to-date on these developments, Bob is their point person” is much less confrontational.

    So I’d say it’s not being a jerk that’s improved your situation, it’s matching communication styles with your teammates.