Work on building capacity in yourself to engage. You may be less naturally skillful at interacting, but everyone can improve. You’re not that much older than her either. Be kind, open, and honest with her. Ask open ended questions. Make time.

I mean, I hate BlueSky too, but I think the reason it’s more popular than Mastodon is that it’s more centralized and in practical terms that means it’s easier to adopt and engage with.

The biggest headache I have with Mastodon (and Lemmy, to a lesser extent) is defederation. I understand it’s the most practical thing to do sometimes, but it’s waaay overdone. Like, there needs to be a culture of only defederating as a last resort due to pratical concerns (e.g. bots I guess). Unfortunately the current culture is one where many instance admins treat defederation as a personal blocklist. I wish more admins would leave it to individual users to decide who to allow or not.

It still needs polish, but the biggest deficit is lack of adoption.

Platforms like Twitter encourage casual breaks between public and private space, but Facebook-like platforms are better for passively extending existing friendship circles. Or so it seems to me.

With rare exception (Israel) America can seem downright schizo from administration to administration.

I get that’s the principle, but how long are you supposed to spray for? How much pressure? Is there a trick to it? In my own limited experience, it doesn’t actually do much more than dampen the poo.

Okay Team Bidet, how are they actually supposed work?