I feel like it’s awfully interesting though that we have ‘parallel discussions’ whenever someone says “hey this specific thing sucks for women.” […] The answer to that isn’t “we need better male role models in movies” (though it would obviously help as well) as it’s dodging the original question.

Yes, perfectly agree with you! I think both are important points and needed to tackle the issue of patriarchy, because if we don’t teach boys to be better, they never will be and grow up to ask “but what about me?” when they read about feministic topics.

And I fully agree, the way the op posted it with “counter point” already send the discussion in the wrong way.

Yes, it’s not a counter point but rather an also important parallel discussion. We need to have higher standards for male role models, or we will continue to have incels fill the space.