I recommend posting in !selfhosted@lemmy.world, really helpful community there (although I’d refrain from specifically mentioning piracy).

I’ve heard Hetzner is quick to crack down on piracy. Some VPS hosters advertise that they don’t acknowledge DMCA requests, such as Njalla and 1984 (I’ve never used these, just found them by searching Lemmy). If you want to go with a traditional hoster I’ll echo what the other person said and recommend Gluetun to bind your container to a VPN service.

For security, if it’s just for you and your partner I’d just setup a Wireguard server on the VPS and tunnel into it that way. You’ll have to setup the VPN on any device you want to access your server with, which is a hassle, but I’d much prefer the small hassle than the constant worrying of hosting publicly-accessible services. Otherwise, I’d setup something like Crowdsec or Fail2Ban.

“Public benefit corporation” is such an oxymoron, I know it’s cliché to say this but it reads like something out of 1984.

If your goal is truly to benefit the public, why wouldn’t you start a non-profit? It’s because they want profits, which will always be at odds with the interests of the public.

Honestly, you might just have to wait until she’s done with puberty. This just sounds like a typical teenager whose brain is addled with hormones. It’ll die down with time.