Really insightful comment. I did not understand OPs perspective at all but it feels like you’ve hit the nail on the head.
When I first joined the work force I had this idea that ‘I was there to do a job not make friends.’ but that attitude made me miserable
This was years ago. But I’ve never been much into the bars and clubs scene. I remember at the time just feeling isolated and alone. I didn’t like spending 8-12 hours every day without any connection to anyone. Along with an extremely high pressure work environment, I was breaking down into tears on my way home most days.
I did it to myself so I was able to open up and find ways to connect to the people around me once I changed my attitude.
I also found some solidarity. It started as just a few complaints about how things were run but eventually I joined the union who helped me recoup a bunch of stolen wages.